December 2010
40 posts
How I always think i'll spend my new years:
How i’ll ACTUALLY spend it :
YES. Though in truth, I always just expect the second one from the start anyway XD
That awkward moment when you start telling someone...
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Sometimes I wish I were a more unscrupulous person so that I could tell white lies and not feel like shit about it. I can’t very well email work and be like “lol hi I can’t come in tomorrow because my cats decided the minute I laid down to sleep they would make every possible noise in the universe and I was still wide awake at 3am when I have to be up at 6 and I was like, fuck...
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"So what pronouns do you prefer?"
This is my favorite and least favorite question these days.
Favorite because I am blessed and lucky and amazed to spend a good portion of my time around people who even think to ask that. Favorite because it focuses not on my identity but on how I want to be treated. Favorite because it is wonderful to have someone ask you what words you want them to use, rather than just stick words on you...
Holy shit Panpride knock it the fuck off
I really would prefer not to unfollow, because they reblog so much genuinely useful and interesting stuff, but if I see one more fucking smug-ass post on my dash that says “love is not about gender” I am going to scream.
You know what? You’re right. Love is not about gender. And sexual orientation is not about love.
I love plenty of people I don’t want to fuck. There are...
Queer Watch: "oh no gender variance has become a... →
chaoticwhim:
ichmuss:
1. More people challenging the binary/challenging cissexism is not a bad thing.
2. No one has any right to tell anyone that they are or aren’t gender variant. You know you better than I or anyone else can.
3. While I could say “no one does this for fun” (this: not “passing” in any…
So glad 1 and 2 are, well, numbers 1 and 2, because those are very important things.
I was going
to write something poetic and interesting but I don’t feel poetic or interesting. I just feel annoyed because everyone thinks I’m a girl and embarrassed because I’m so bad at singing (I had choir practice tonight) and angry because one of my irl friends never wants to hang out and frustrated because Christmas is so close and I don’t have time to enjoy it. And homesick and...
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Dysphoria.
I felt it today, stronger than I maybe ever have. It was like 18 degrees this morning and we don’t have heat in my house, so I just threw on any layers I could find. This ended up being a men’s t-shirt, women’s underwear, women’s longjohns, my compression sports bra, a sweater that’s androgynous but really designed for women, women’s jeans, men’s hoodie,...
Argh winter clothes
Sensory issues + dysphoria (all my attempts at looking male are hidden under my coat) + awkward clothes making me even more clumsy than usual = NOT FUN
Ew.
So, I recently changed my name on Facebook to my preferred name. I also recently gave myself a very short haircut (and a handsome one, if I do say so myself). A bunch of people “liked” the status where I said I was trying on a new name, and no one said anything negative, so I thought it was cool.
So I was kinda surprised when today, out of the blue, an old friend I’ve barely...
Urine found on at least 40 LGBT books in a Harvard... →
pansexualpride:
Yes, you read that right. Forty or so books were found to be vandalized in Lamont Library by urine. Since the books have to do with LGBT issues and gay marriage, the incident is being investigated as a hate crime, as it should be.
Marco Chan ’11, co-chair of the Harvard College Queer Students and Allies, called the incident “extremely frustrating” and “disconcerting,” and said...
So.
I finally came out to my roommate!
And she was totally chill about it. Her response basically boiled down to “‘kay, you’re still you, so whatever.” So that is a HUGE load off my chest. The fact that she didn’t know was the main reason I couldn’t talk about it on Facebook or Twitter or whatever. I still have lots of other people who don’t know, but the...
:D
I feel damn good right now. I finally bought a hair trimmer and gave myself a proper haircut (where ‘proper’ is defined as “all of the hairs on a given section of my head are the same length as each other”), and it looks very queer and gender-ambiguous and, to my eye, flattering. (From the front at least. The back is too short, but it’ll grow.) I also got a...
Lovely Advice →
yupispatrick:
l0velyanne:
Health: 1. Drink plenty of water. 2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar. 3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. 4. Live with the 3 E’s - Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy 5. Play more games. 6. Read more books than you did in 2009. 7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes...
Highs! Epiphanies! Despairs!: How to Win At Life:... →
ciscentricismsucks:
I’m writing a happy post about being trans. There’s a lot that’s happy about it, but this in particular.
I’ve had a rough time of it over the last few days. In order to cheer myself up, I reached out today. To my uncle, A, on my mother’s side. A has always been a fun, laid-back guy, and he’s…
All friends and family members of trans* people need to read this. Now.
A Topographical Study: On socializing. →
mappingindiana:
I have a facebook account now, under Angus Indiana, and a few friends. However, I’m not out at school. I’m out to a few select people, and they are, for the most part, my facebook friends.
Today at work one of the girls (from Nepal, she’s awesome) asked to be my facebook friend, and I couldn’t…
Wow, that sucks :( Sorry you had a bad day.
One thing about the T, though -...
CLOTHES SHOPPING
Purchased:
Compression bra - I figured I’d try this before shelling out the money for a binder. It does the job of getting rid of the boobs in the front, but unfortunately it gives me a set in the back instead. Eep.
Two argyle sweaters - one red and one gray/purple
Nice men’s jeans
Snow boots and suede gloves
Cozy pajama pants
Boxers, which I’ve decided I’m not crazy...
argh
Why does everyone think my name is pronounced “Alicia”? It’s Elisha, like Elijah with a “sh”. Alicia is more feminine than my birth name, no thank you :(
Pansexual →
chaoticwhim:
cassket:
Pansexuality is sometimes described as the capacity to love a person romantically irrespective of gender identity or biological sex. Some pansexuals assert that gender and sex are meaningless to them. The word pansexual is derived from the Greek prefix pan-, meaning “all”. This includes potential attraction to people who do not fit into the gender binary of male/female...
NYC Cuts Funding to Homeless Youth Shelters →
pansexualpride:
Have you ever heard of that story of the couple, looking for shelter on a cold winter night, only to be turned away at every corner, forced to seek refuge in a cold, damp, dilapidated shed? Looks like this will be the reality for too many LGBT youth in New York this year. Only their story won’t end with magi and myrrh and the baby Jesus.
Last week, the day after thousands of...
Reading My Gender Workbook did not make me trans.
stuffthatdidnotmakemetrans:
Why do you think I was reading it in the first place?!
Submitted by survival2019.
YES.
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Taking the brakes off.
I’ve written a few things lately that I might use in explaining my gender when I eventually come out to a wider circle than the handful of friends who already know. I wrote this today and thought I’d share here.
Note: The parking brake metaphor came from a blog post I once read where a trans* person likened living as the wrong gender to driving with the parking brake on - they could...
Yeah so they definitely painted a robot and a... →
I will never ever stop loving these guys. They don’t take themselves one bit seriously :D
Also, “robot and unicorn” would honestly work as a description of Vince and Andy on stage.
Eyebrows.
One of the best things about letting go of trying to be feminine is now I have my eyebrows back. I have these thick, dark, very striking eyebrows (when I was a kid my great-aunt said I looked like a young Liz Taylor and I’m pretty sure it was the eyebrows). Everyone on my maternal grandpa’s side of the family had them - my mom, my uncle, my great-aunts and my grandpa himself. When I...
Crease Pieces: Pronouns →
creasepieces:
My pronouns of choice are male, because in my ears, male pronouns do not imply masculinity. Rather, I hear them as universal terms for human beings. For “mankind”.
When you refer to me as “she”, you are dividing me from the rest of humanity and placing me into a separate category. When you use…
While I totally get what you’re saying here (in fact, it made me think a...
madame thursday: Let's get something straight →
madamethursday:
When you say things like, “Well, I’ve always worked hard to stay healthy” or “I never let myself become fat/obese/unhealthy”
You are
a) Not really telling the truth
and
b) Being an ablist, fatphobic, classist, elitist jackass.
When you say “I’ve always maintained a healthy weight” what…